Jan 18, 2023
It can be really painful when your husband is looking at his phone and not paying attention to you. But the way that you respond, you have 100% control over that. When you learn that you can act charitably even when your husband is playing games on his phone, you are going to feel so powerful as a Catholic mom. This is what the sainthood journey looks like.
Unintentional Model
C: Husband looking at his phone
T: He doesn't care about me.
F: Unloved
A: Snippy with husband, snippy with kids, clean the house angrily,
think of all the other ways he doesn't care for you, act
childishly, eating cookies/drinking wine/scrolling on your
phone
R: You don't care about him.
You don't care about yourself.
Intentional Model
C: husband looking at his phone
T: I wonder what's going on with him.
F: Charity/Curiosity
A: Give him space, ask him later how he's doing, check in with what
your needs really are, serve your own needs, serve the kids.
R: You wonder what's going on with him. You wonder what's going on
with yourself.